BETTER PARENTING, BETTER KIDS Blog Tour with Nonnie Jules

I am very excited to help fellow Rave Reviews Book Club member and friend Nonnie Jules kickstart her BETTER PARENTING, BETTER KIDS Blog Tour. I first met Nonnie through twitter and immediately had to read her parenting guide, THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE TO RAISING (ALMOST) PERFECT DAUGHTERS. It is a great book and is a perfect gift for the new mommy. Please sit back and enjoy today’s guest. 

Hi, my name is Nonnie Jules and welcome to the 1st day of my BETTER PARENTING, BETTER KIDS Blog Tour. Today I’m being hosted by my fellow RAVE REVIEWS BOOK CLUB board member, Kathryn Treat. I am honored that Kathryn offered to kick off my tour as she was one of the first people to ever read my parenting guide, THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE TO RAISING (ALMOST) PERFECT DAUGHTERS. She loved the book so much that she, of course, gave it a 5 * review. Here is a snippet of her review: “This book could be applicable to parents of sons as well, and would make a GREAT baby shower gift for NEW moms.” Kathryn and I quickly became friends, and it was greatly in part because of our parenting values. She, like me, also has two (almost) perfect daughters and she could relate to many of the points I had laid out in this guide.

Many times, people are drawn to each other for various reasons, most often because of commonalities they share. But in my case, I often find myself surrounded by parents who have kids who are the total opposite of mine. I’ve come to realize that the reason is because our parenting styles differ greatly.

I won’t say that I’m a strict parent, but I will say that there are certain things that I won’t compromise on (whether the child is 5 or 25): respect and manners. That being said, I have zero tolerance for poorly behaved children (and poorly behaved adults, for that matter), disrespectful children and a lack of manners (for those kids who are of the age to “know better” in certain situations).

I am a firm believer that there are “some” things that children can come into the world knowing, but the major things have to be taught. From about 2-3 months after conception of both my daughters, I would often have conversations with them {in my tummy}, letting them know what would be acceptable and unacceptable when they made their entrances into my world. My husband would laugh if he walked by and I was having such a conversation with my “belly,” but hey, there was really a baby in there!

I can remember as if it were yesterday, repeatedly saying the following to them (while they were in my tummy):

“When you get here, you will not break mommy’s things”;

“When you get here, you will be kind and respectful to others”.

Little did we know that those “lessons” would produce two of the most incredible daughters ever! My husband now tells parents-to-be: “Be sure you start teaching them early…while they’re still in the oven baking, because it really works!” Well, it seems he’s not laughing at me now, is he? Instead, he’s witnessing about that which I knew early on. Call it my mother’s intuition if you want, but I knew, somewhere deep inside, that if I started “that” early, the results would be very different.

When I was in college, I made the decision that I didn’t want kids. In my mind, they were just too messy and too much trouble and I was going to lead this grand life where there would be no room for these little people. When I got married and became expectant with my first child, I began to see things differently. I looked around the world and I knew instantly, what I DID NOT want my daughters to become. I saw these children who were so ill-mannered, that even now I cringe when I hear a child call an adult by their first name without putting a “handle” before it…you know, “Mrs., Ms, Mr.” My skin crawls when I hear a parent calling out to their child and the child yells back, “What?” and I literally want to pull my finger nails off with plyers when I see a child throwing a tantrum in the store or a child being disrespectful, by “talking back” to an adult. {In my mind, I’m secretly willing the parents to leave them with me for just one hour and I would promise the return of a most well-behaved child}.

I detest rudeness, so do you honestly think that I would have rude children? Absolutely not. I’m called Ms. Manners in some circles, so do you think that you would ever see a child of mine exhibiting poor ones? Never.

We’ve all heard these two adages:

“The definition of Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”

“If you want something you’ve never had, then you’ve got to do something you’ve never done.”

Well, I decided BEFORE my kids were born, that I was going to parent better. I knew that would be the only way for me to get the great kids that I now have. I was well aware that the parenting that I had seen before me hadn’t worked, and I knew this because of the great many poorly parented kids I saw, even within my own family. I was determined to break this cycle so I went back to my own childhood, and although I don’t parent entirely the way my parents did, many of my methods are, as they say, “from the old school.” This new age parenting, let me ask some of you {in the voice and words of Sarah Palin}, “how’s that working out for ya?” With the crime rate growing because of young kids, I would go so far as to say, “Not well at all.”

Parents, we have to cultivate better if we want to produce better crops. We have to spend more time on them, and without neglecting ourselves, less time on those things that shouldn’t be as important as they are.

I hope that you will follow me for the next 7 days as I give you more insight into how we can create a much better world and how better parenting can produce better kids. Even if you think this doesn’t involve you because you don’t have kids or your kids are grown, think of it this way: “I’m sure you have nieces, nephews, grandkids or even god-children” who you want to be the best. And maybe, just maybe, their parents aren’t able to read this message or the other ones I will be sharing. YOU can be their saving grace. YOU can be their messenger.

I look forward to seeing you on my next stop where I will have another great message waiting just for you!

AUTHOR BIO:

Nonnie Jules is the mother of two beautifully kind daughters, who along with the help of her husband, have turned out to be two of the greatest assets to this world. THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE TO RAISING (ALMOST) PERFECT DAUGHTERS is her first published piece of work and two weeks after publication, it hit Amazon’s Top 100 list, where it reached the #7 mark. With all the violence which is being exhibited by some children today, it is her vision and goal to get THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE…into the hands of everyone who breathes around a child. She feels the only way we can make this happen, is if we are all working from a common blueprint. Ms. Jules strongly believes that every opportunity we are given with a child, should be a teaching one for us and a learning one for them.

So far, Ms. Jules has authored two other books: a novel which she released in November of 2013, entitled “DAYDREAM’S DAUGHTER, NIGHTMARE’S FRIEND” and “SUGARCOATIN’ IS FOR CANDY & PACIFYIN’ IS FOR KIDS!” where she shares her no-holds-barred style of teaching us all about support and social media. Her second parenting guide {THE GOOD MOMMIES’ GUIDE TO BULLY-PROOF KIDS} is due for release the beginning of January, 2015 and the sequel to her debut novel, DAYDREAM’S DAUGHTER, shortly after. (Both have been delayed due to her extensive workload with RRBC).

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She is a fan of the well-written word, and so along with 3 partners, she started 4WillsPublishing Co. in November, 2013 to assist other writers in putting out their best work ever. By December, 2013, she had founded the RAVE REVIEWS BOOK CLUB where in less than a year, the membership has rapidly grown to well over 500. If you’re not a member yet, this is your personal invitation!

As you can see, she is an Author on the move and if you’re interested in keeping up with her, here is her contact info and a good pair of running shoes would help as well:

Twitter: @nonniejules

Facebook: Nonnie Jules, Author

Blogs/Websites:

4WillsPublishing.wordpress.com
BooksByNonnie.wordpress.com
NonnieWrites.wordpress.com
AskTheGoodMommy.wordpress.com

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39 responses to “BETTER PARENTING, BETTER KIDS Blog Tour with Nonnie Jules

  1. Thank you very much for those words of wisdom, Nonnie! As a father of one daughter and two sons and three grandchildren, I share your values as well as your concerns. Have a great tour!

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  3. Well, I don’t have children, but I can say that my parents raised well-behaved ones. They had four of us within five years. Quite a handful when going out shopping. And yet… people would approach my mother and be astonished at how well-behaved we all were. You don’t see that too much these days. Instead, you hear many children whining about all the things they need. More people could use a parenting guide. All the best, Nonnie.

  4. Rebecca, thank you. My mom had a huge brood as well, and all of her sisters had either two or four, and all of their kids were raised very disrespectfully. On the other hand, people would always say to my mom: “Your children are so well-behaved,” and I’m sure that made her proud as it is the highest compliment which someone can pay me even now. Today’s parenting standards, are lacking in a lot of ways. I say let’s go back to the village and let’s bring back old-school parenting!

    I mean seriously, how many kids were taking guns to school and shooting up campuses when we were little. NONE THAT I KNEW OF!

  5. Fantastic post, Nonnie! I read and reviewed your Good Mommies Guide some time back and am here to say that your advice was right on track and every new or expectant parent should get a copy. (I too, have two “almost perfect” daughters, and I know it takes a lot of work to make that happen. It would have helped me a lot way back when if your book had been available to help guide my path through it all). I enjoyed the book immensely, nevertheless. 🙂

    • Hello Carol. Thank you for taking the time to follow Nonnie’s blog tour and comment. Yes, it does take a lot of work but the rewards are well worth the effort when raising children. I agree it is a must read for all new mommies.

  6. My mum was hot on manners. One of the worst things I could have done would have been to be disrespectful & embarrass her in public. I never did because I was raised right & I loved her for it. I raised my children the same way. Nowadays I hear children swear at their parents. *shakes head.* Enjoy your tour, Nonnie. I hope you get the same level of support you show to others. I have ‘The Good Mommie’s Guide to Raising (Almost) Perfect Daughters.’ I’m looking forward to reading it. Thanks for hosting, Kathryn.

  7. So true with children as well as with most anything. You reap what you sow. Children have got to be guided, not just by words but by example. My parents were strict, but most were back in the 50s and 60s. Interest, time, and love go a long way. Enjoy your tour, Nonnie. Thanks, Kathy, for hosting.

  8. Hi Nonnie and Kathryn, I tried to leave a reply and got rejected. Don’t know what that is about, but I will try again. Nonnie, great start to your blog tour. I enjoyed your post. I have one daughter who will turn 39 in a couple months. Luckily, my wife and I have a daughter who fits the “almost perfect” category. No grandchildren but we have many opportunities to be around other’s grandchildren, so I will read your advice and implement some of your ideas when the opportunity presents itself. Good luck with your blog tour, and Kathryn, very nice blog.

  9. I only have one daughter but was so thankful to have come across your book. It was somewhat of a confirmation that I was doing (most of) it right so far; although you did offer some innovative tips that I hadn’t thought of before. More than anything I want my daughter to grow up kind and respectful. You are an incredible writer and person, Nonnie, and I am so thankful I met you and all the supportive RRBC members! Enjoy your tour and I look forward to being enlightened by your writing at each stop I visit:)

  10. Great blog post, Nonnie. Fantastic words of wisdom! Thanks for hosting, Kathryn.

  11. Thanks for hosting, Kathryn. Great advice, Nonnie!

  12. harmonykentonline

    This is such an important message, Nonnie and I really hope your tour helps to put your book out there. As Jenni said in her comment, example is so very important when raising kids … they learn much more from what they witness than what they are “told” to do. The old, and too oft used, phrase: “Do as I say and not as I do.” completely misses the mark.
    Kathryn, thank you for hosting Nonnie on the first stop of her tour 🙂

  13. Thank you very much Kathryn for hosting our great motivator. As for you Nonnie, all I have is admiration for your drive and propensity to help others. The more you give the more you receive. You started something that some of us only dream of, and for this, you are greatly loved and admired. Never stop giving.
    After reading and reviewing this book, I will pass it to my daughter who is just starting off with raising a daughter and a son.

  14. Fantastic post, Nonnie! Always full of wisdom and such a joy to read. Best of luck to you on your exciting blog tour!!
    Kathryn, thank you for hosting Nonnie and showing your support!

  15. I love the concept of “belly-talking”! And it seems to be working wonders, too! 🙂

  16. Shirley Harris-Slaughter

    I watch my son raising his kids and see how protective he is of who they associate with, including family. How sad when you keep your kids away from family because they are not being raised well and you don’t want your children to be influenced by their unacceptable ways. I bought your book for them. Now I will get a copy for me. lol

  17. Great post, Nonnie. Where were you when my seeing eye son was young? Lol Actually, he’s a good kid but I think your book would have been a big help. Have a great tour & I’ll stop by again.

  18. Loved the thought of “Parents, we have to cultivate better if we want to produce better crops.” Too often I see parents who want to be pals with their kids as opposed to the responsibility to really love and nurture them. Thanks, Nonnie. Thanks, Kathryn.

  19. Lovely post, Nonnie. No doubt, many will benefit from your words of wisdom! Kathryn, thank you for hosting Nonnie on your gorgeous blog! xoxo 🙂

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